My Friends Expect Me to Lower My Standards for Them
Something I heard Tony Robbins once say during a conference really made me think about my health and my life. This is something that I feel will bring a lot of value to you and really open up your eyes, so keep reading.
I don’t know about you and your past and who you hang out with, but I still have quite a few people in my life who either negative or aren’t where they want to be with their health, their relationships, their business, and their finances. They’re living under their true means. They’re living under their abilities. In many cases, they’re lazy and just not doing what they need to be doing.
Don’t Let Others Bring You Down
What Tony said at that conference really hit home for me. He explained that a lot of times, you might be doing amazing with your health or are having extraordinary results in your business or finances. Maybe you just had a $10,000.00 month on eBay; maybe you launched your private label product on Amazon; maybe you lost 30 pounds.
Let’s stick with the Amazon example. So maybe you made $40,000.00 in one month on your private label product on Amazon. You’ve never made that kind of income before, and you are ecstatic. You are going through the roof with excitement; you are pumped up.
You might have a friend you hang out with who maybe only makes $10 or $12 an hour. A lot of times in that situation what people do is lower their standards and won’t talk about their success. They won’t share it. They won’t get excited about it around their friends, and they’ll actually start to stoop to their level because they don’t want to make people feel bad.
For example, have you ever gone out to eat with somebody who is maybe overweight or unhealthy, and you lowered your standards and decided to have a bunch of dessert or pizza or ate a bunch of food that you typically wouldn’t because you didn’t want to make them feel bad by eating something healthy?
You’ve got to stop doing that. People have to learn to deal with their own problems. It’s not your job to lower your standards for other people. It’s your job to live up to your standards and your expectations, achieve your goals, and do the things that are aligned with your values and beliefs.
I’ve struggled with this very thing in the past. I have people in my life who don’t have the same values as I do in terms of working out, health, the way I eat, and my business. There are people who I associate with who are broke and work minimum-wage jobs. They’re not fit.
And there’s nothing wrong with that. I’m not here to judge. I’m not judging somebody because they make less money than me or because they make more money than me.
That doesn’t really matter. I’m not judging somebody because they’re eating unhealthy or because they’re overweight. I’ve been there. I’ve been broke. I’ve been jobless. I’ve been in jail, arrested. I was 250 pounds. I was smoking two packs of cigarettes a day. I’m no one to judge. If I judged, I would really a total hypocrite because I’ve been there and done that.
Treat Your Mind Like a Garden
But you don’t want to lower your standards for other people. You’ve got to be very, very careful. You have to guard the entrance of your mind and treat it like a garden. You’ve got to pull out those weeds when they pop up. You can’t let other people bring you down. That’s why you have to be so careful who you hang out with.
I’ve been thinking about this because there are so many examples of people who almost make me feel as though I have to lower my standards to make them feel better. I have this friend, and any time I talk about my success and my business, it’s almost as if they get offended or upset. And I’m not rubbing it in their face; I'm just sharing my excitement. But they don’t want to hear it. This sort of person doesn’t want to hear about your success, and you’ve got to be very, very careful with that.
Don’t Lower Your Standards
Tony Robbins warns about the dangers of being around people who are living lower- standard lives than you are. A lot of times, it’s human nature; we don’t want to make people feel bad. So you’ve got to be careful and not lower your standards. If you want to succeed, if you want to take it to the next level, it’s all about the standards that you hold yourself to.
That’s how you achieve your results—by the habits and the things that you do on a regular basis. Don’t let anyone sway you from that path.
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